Category: Relationships & Roles Aboard

Women cruisers share how their sense of self evolves through the cruising experience.

First Cruise/First passage, Relationships & Roles Aboard

My first time on a sailing boat - or why women don’t want to go sailing with their husbands

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When I was told that I could easily wear my brand new Jimmy Choo stilettos on a sailing holiday, I agreed to go

“You poor thing!”, an American girl said to me, when I told her about the conditions under which I lived on my boyfriend’s 30 foot sailing boat. And I was close to agree …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Balance of power ... afloat

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Am I the only one who finds this cringe-worthy?
I don’t mean the t-shirts. I know absolutely nothing about the quality of the manufacturer whose website I found them on. Nor can I blame their product design; they’re simply reacting to the market and public perception.

What offends me to the bottom of my unabashedly feminist soul …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Sailing as a Metaphor for Marriage

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Photo by Janna Cawrse Esarey

There are many things I love about sailing: The quality time, the travel, the beauty. The exhilaration of being propelled by wind. The comfort of cockpit cushions when curled up with a good book.

But another thing I love about sailing, truly, is its wealth of metaphors for life and love.

Forgive me. …Read more

Cruising with Kids, Lessons Learned, Relationships & Roles Aboard

Confessions of a Bad Boat Wife

Serena-Li

 

A year ago, I went to a girl’s night out with some women at a local marina. Over dinner and a glass of wine, one of the gals confessed, “I really wanted to be a good boat wife this summer when I wasn’t in school. You know, like pack his lunch and make him coffee. …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard, What I Like About Cruising

What do women like most about sailing their boats?

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Two years ago I started a little project where I talked to other women on sailboats about their sailing life. I only started sailing/cruising in 2007 with my spouse and soon realized it wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I could either quit or try to find out what would make me …Read more

Lessons Learned, Relationships & Roles Aboard

6 Mistakes men make in sharing their sailing passion (Lessons I learned the hard way)

Nick O'Kelly

On even the most perfect weekend afternoon, we see only a handful of empty slips; most boats jostle restlessly in place like drunken tombstones.

Smart, motivated, and capable people own these craft:  doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs, craftsmen, teachers, engineers, etc.

They’ve sacrificed and saved and dedicated significant resources for years to buy, berth, and maintain their boats, yet …Read more

BOOKS, Relationships & Roles Aboard

Get Her On Board (Secrets to Sharing the Cruising Dream)

Get Her On Board, by Nick O'Kelly

Through a sequence of connections it would take a page to recount, I’ve come back in touch with a cruiser I first met in a group of West Coast sailors getting ready to leave for the South Pacific from Puerto Vallarta back in 2003.

A series of maintenance problems cropped up and kept Nick and his …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? ...Violet, Meri says

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In April, Betsy Morris wrote about the division of boat jobs aboard Salsa (Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Betsy Morris’ Confession). She wondered how other cruising couples divided up the jobs and whether they were happy with the result. Marcie Lynn commented here. Following is Meri Faulkner’s response.

I have …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Marcie Lynn comments

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In April, Betsy Morris wrote about the division of boat jobs aboard Salsa (Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Betsy Morris’ Confession). She wondered how other cruising couples divided up the jobs and whether they were happy with the result. Following is Marcie Lynn’s response.

I enjoyed reading Betsy’s article, but I guess I …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

I am not an Admiral!

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I am not an Admiral. I am a co-captain, a sailor, a cruiser, a wife, and sometimes a wench, but I am not an Admiral.

The word is a title of importance. It denotes authority, oversight and ultimate responsibility for a fleet.

The term has historical context which also imbues it with power. There are many Admirals …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Betsy Morris's confession

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I have a new sailing friend, an exceptionally competent woman.

The first day we met, on a beach in the Bahamas, Doris said “I wish I’d understood when we moved aboard how uneven the tasks would seem. I wish I’d understood that my husband’s skills carried more weight than mine.” …Read more

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Shipboard democracy and chain of command

The Momo Crew, Bernie, Michelle, Lola, Jana-2

“Are we gonna make it?” (me)
— “Yeah, we’ll make it.” (him)
— “I don’t know…” (me)
— “We’ll make it; sheet in the main!” (him)

60 SECONDS …Read more