Category: Fears and Worries

We discuss fear and how to deal with it.

Fears and Worries, Finances Q&A, The Big Decision Q&A

Cruising kitty: Will I have enough money?

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My biggest fear and concern about dropping everything and taking my wife (who is more enthusiastic than I am) and three kids cruising is $.
•Will I have enough?
•How much is enough?
•Will I be able to earn anything underway with dive gear and being a licensed captain with systems …Read more

Fears and Worries

Conquering a fear of heights: Going up the mast

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This article was first published on Jody’s website: Where the coconuts grow.

Peter has been up the mast many times. He has changed out bulbs, serviced our wind generator and retrieved runaway halyards. He is also a big strong guy.

Knowing it’s difficult for me to even raise our 12′ dinghy up onto the bow …Read more

Fears and Worries, First Cruise/First passage

Adventures of a once reluctant sailor

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In 2007, my husband Wayne and I traveled from Bayfield, Wisconsin, on Lake Superior to Punta Gorda, Florida, on our Island Packet 445 sailboat. We chose the long route, which took us through the Saint Lawrence Seaway and the Canadian Maritime provinces, a trip of about five thousand miles.

I had absolutely no intention …Read more

Fears and Worries

All dressed up and too afraid to go: Rediscovering the courage to set out alone

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As I prepare for a brief 4-day jaunt to Biscayne Bay with my ketch Annie Laurie, a trip I’ve been planning for weeks, I realize it’s been close to 3 years since I’ve taken the boat out sailing on my own. I’ve decided it’s high time to try again, to remind myself that …Read more

Cruising Life, Fears and Worries, Lessons Learned

Chance encounters between ships and whales - Part 2

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Bizarre whale tales

Who can forget the photos of the 40 ton southern right whale (Eubalaena australis) that breached onto a 33ft sloop in South Africa in 2010, breaking the mast before sliding into the water with an ‘eerie …Read more

Cruising Life, Fears and Worries, Lessons Learned

Chance encounters between ships and whales - Part 1

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Most sailors setting off on a passage dream of encountering wildlife at sea.

Yet ask blue water sailors about their biggest fears, and near the top of the list is likely to be ‘striking a whale’. It’s one of the events most likely to be catastrophic at sea. Today, we can usually avoid really bad weather, but can we avoid a sleeping whale at …Read more

ASK YOUR QUESTIONS, Fears and Worries, Safety & Security Q&A

I am afraid of going up the mast. How do I deal with this?

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Sherri’s question

One of the things I want to ask other women about is going up the mast.I feel silly about it because twenty years ago I was adventurous and really liked heights and was into rock climbing! But over the past few years I have become fearful of heights and no matter how much …Read more

BOOKS, Fears and Worries

Book review - Swept: Love With a Chance of Drowning, by Torre DeRoche

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I’m a sucker for a well-told tale, and Swept: Love With a Chance of Drowning by Torre DeRoche is just that.  Decades ago, sailing sagas were told by weathered men sailing solo on distant seas; today they are told by the women convinced to go along.

Not unlike Janna Cawrse Esarey’s Motion of the Ocean, Swept …Read more

BOOKS, Fears and Worries

First-time voyagers — What did they worry about that never happened? (Part 2)

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Lin Pardey interviews 11 cruising couples fresh from their first major crossing – and finds out what they worried about and what they learned. We have divided this article in 2 parts. Part 1 describes worries about bad weather and gear failures. Here, in part 2, Lin Pardey writes about other common worries as well as suggestions for those preparing to set …Read more

BOOKS, Fears and Worries

First-time voyagers — What did they worry about that never happened? (Part 1)

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In this chapter from “Capable Cruiser”, Lin Pardey asked 11 pairs of cruisers to share their thoughts on predeparture worries, the gear that worked, failures that occurred, and thoughts they wanted to share with those waiting to set sail. We are publishing this chapter in 2 parts. Part 2 will appear next …Read more

Fears and Worries, How We Learn

Ruth Allen's secret weapon against fear: the theme song from Gilligan's Island

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My first sail was on May 24th 1999, I was 41 years old.

My husband had sailed from the time he was a young boy, starting off in dinghies. We had purchased Thetis, a Halcyon 23, restored her and were now ready to sail.

There was one small problem: her engine was …Read more

Fears and Worries, How We Learn, Sharing Our Stories

Laurie’s epic journey to conquer her fear of the water

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I don’t know why I’m terrified of water.

It’s not as though I have memories of any tragic or traumatic moment in my life, such as I’ve heard others tell when detailing their fear of the deep.

In fact, I remember a few family outings as a child to Terracina or Sabaudia or even San Felice (Italy) …Read more