Have you ever noticed how a normally loving relationship can quickly turn into a battle of the anchorage?  When things don’t go as planned, people get excited. Voices are raised, get louder and louder, the words harsher, the emotions higher with every exchange.

Well it need not be such a trying ordeal.  In fact, anchoring should be a lovely dance in the harbour, a celebration of a successful passage.  That final step that signifies you’ve made it safely, and now with just a few more simple steps, it will be cocktail time, your favourite time of day.

I joined forces with my husband Alex to write a book we called “Happy Hooking – the Art of Anchoring”. (Everyone remembers the title!) It started out that we were known as “the cruisers” in the sailing club. We anchored out a lot. So we were asked to do a lecture about anchoring for all “the racers”. One thing led to another, we crossed oceans, and now our book is in its second expanded edition, we do seminars, we conduct webinars for SSCA’s Seven Seas University, and we have a course online through NauticEd. So, we talk to a lot of people about their favourite anchoring stories (and do we hear some good ones), and we hear a lot about their issues when anchoring.

Rather than doing a “how to” here (we have a repository of short excerpts from our book on our website www.CoastalBoating.net/HappyHooking), what I thought might be useful is to share with you the frustrations I’ve heard countless times from the women cruisers and some of the suggestions I’ve shared with them over the years.

Then, if you have questions or suggestions, contact me at CooastBoating.net and I’ll do my best to answer them – and of course all the wonderfully experienced women here can jump in to add their expertise!  The one thing I’ve learned for certain is that you can never know it all.

So here are a few tips on how to keep that anchoring dance a lovely swirl around the harbour rather than a jig on hot coals –just to get us started.

FRUSTRATION 1:
My partner yells instructions at me like I’ve never done this before; it’s  so annoying.

Tip 1: Take the helm.

It’s much easier than dealing with the anchor and rode. All you have to do is drive in a circle, stop the boat, and reverse gently. No heavy lifting. He can’t shout instructions about anchoring if he’s the one doing the lifting.

We have a rule on board: NO SHOUTING.

Alternatively, take him aside afterwards and calmly explain that you feel humiliated when he treats you like you don’t know what you’re doing, and you don’t appreciate it. Ask him to let you demonstrate your competence next time without step by step instructions.  Very often, people don’t even realize that they are doing something that’s not appreciated until they are told outright.

By the way, I know it sounds like a gender bias thing here; but honestly I’ve never heard a complaint from a man that his female partner yells at him.

FRUSTRATION 2:
The boat can’t back. It always goes sideways when we anchor and I’m afraid we’re going to drift into boats nearby.

Tip 2: Snub along the way.

If your boat starts to drift sideways, it’s because you’re going too slow to have steerage and the wind grabs it.

To overcome that tendency, snub (temporarily secure) the rode and stop letting out more until the boat straightens out. The anchor, as long as it is already touching the bottom, should catch just enough to set lightly, the breeze will swing you slowly around, straighten out the rode, and your boat will realign itself with the anchor. Once you are aligned again, continue to let our more rode until you have adequate scope. (This actually helps the anchor set as well.) Then you can set the anchor properly.

FRUSTRATION 3: I can’t hear what he’s saying, especially when the wind is blowing.

Tip 3: Establish hand signals.

• Karate chop forward: forward.
• Karate chop backward: reverse.
• Arm out to the right palm forward: head right.
• Arm bent at elbow: head left.
• Arm out to the right palm down moving up and down: Slow down.
• Arm straight up: Stop.
• Arm circling: go around again.
• One thumb up: Anchor’s off the bottom.
• Two thumbs up: Anchor is back on board and secure.
• Cut your neck with your hand: Stop yelling.

Tip 3a: Get a set of radios.

FRS or walkie talkie radios with headsets for hands free operation are great for communication while anchoring, especially for use in the dusk or night time emergency when the wind scatters every word to kingdom come (see also: Interpersonal Communications). The EU equivalent is the PMR446 Pan European Radio system which uses similar (often the same) models as FRS but chipped for a different frequency.

FRUSTRATION 4:
I can never tell how far we are from other boats – I can’t judge distances so I can’t tell if we are too close

Tip 4: Get yourself an inexpensive rangefinder.

You can find them for golfers online for very little money.  All you have to do is gauge how high an object is to have it tell you how far away it is.  Most masts are about 50 feet tall. So there you go.

FRUSTRATION 5:
Our anchor never holds on the first try when we set it, so we always have to re-anchor multiple times.

There could be a couple of reasons for this.

Tip 5:  Use the right anchor.

You could be using the wrong anchor for the bottom type.

A fluke style anchor, such as a Fortress, likes muddy bottoms. A plow type anchor, like a Delta or CQR, likes hard bottoms. They won’t set right and won’t hold right in the wrong conditions.

If you have a new generation anchor, like Spade, Rocna, Manson Supreme, or Ultra, you will most likely not have this problem as they tend to work well in all kinds of bottoms. (see also: Anchor Selection)

Tip 5a: More Scope.

It could simply be that you didn’t let out enough scope for the anchor to address the bottom at an effective angle. Let out more scope when you set the anchor. You can always shorten the scope after the anchor is set if need be.

Tip 5b:  Slow down.

We often see people rushing. Just slowing down helps – stop the boat, drop the anchor slowly while reversing at idle speed and let out plenty of rode (5:1 minimum), tugging gently on the rode to help it grab. Then give the anchor some time to settle.  Finally, set the anchor by putting the engine into reverse gently at idle speed. If you gun it right away, you are likely to yank it out.

If you are expecting a blow, gradually increase the engine speed until you feel the anchor bury itself and you can verify by objects ashore that you are not moving (see box below).

FRUSTRATION 6:
We seem to drag anchor more than anyone else, and always at the worst times

Tip 6:  Get a new anchor.

There can be multiple reasons why your boat would drag anchor, including using too little scope (less than 5:1) and having too small an anchor for your boat’s displacement.

If your anchor is a CQR, then read all the recent independent reports on how poorly a CQR performs relative to the newer anchor designs. Plows are meant to plow, and a CQR does just that.  It was a great design in the 1930s when it was introduced, but it is truly outdated.

Your boat is a huge investment. Protect it with good safety gear – i.e., anchor.

But, if you think you are doing things right and you still keep dragging, it may also be that your anchor is worn or damaged. An anchor that is damaged will not perform as intended ever again. A bent fluke or shaft or a worn hinge is all it takes to cause an anchor to roll out to its weak side.

The same goes with cheap knockoffs. They are not built to exacting specifications. So if the anchor doesn’t hold every time, get a new anchor. And you can’t go wrong if you oversize it.

FRUSTRATION 7:
I can never seem to tell if the anchor is set.

Tip 7: Feel the rode.

That’s an easy one. First off, many of the new anchors bite the bottom so hard that you can see the rode get bar taught and feel the boat shudder when it comes to a grinding halt.  But there is another way, put your foot or hand carefully on the rode where it leaves the boat while the engine is in reverse. If the anchor has not set, you’ll feel it jiggling as the anchor bounces along the bottom. If the anchor is set, you won’t feel a thing.

Tip 7a: Take bearings.

Pick out two stationary objects – one nearer and one farther away. If they move in relation to each other, you are moving. If not, then you are stationary.

You can also set a GPS alarm. There are loads of apps that serve that purpose these days.

FRUSTRATION 8.
I have no idea how much rode we have out. All our markers have worn off.

Tip 8: Refresh your geometry.

The proportions of a triangle always remain the same no matter how big the triangle gets as long as the angles of the triangle remain the same. The triangle made by the surface of the water, the height from the surface to the deck, and the length of the rode above the surface are proportional to the same distances measured at the bottom. So if you see 25 feet of rode above the surface and your bow is 5 feet above the water, you have 5:1 scope all the way down. The rode has to be completely stretched out so it works best with rope rode, but it is pretty close for guess work. Pretty cool, eh? (see also: A Simple Way to Check Scope)

FRUSTRATION 9-52:
…Your turn…

For more on this topic

Check out our book: “Happy Hooking – the Art of Anchoring”, the best-selling anchoring book on amazon.com. It is available from Amazon worldwide in print and Kindle format.

About Daria Blackwell

Daria Blackwell is a USCG licensed Captain. She and her husband Alex, and cruising kitty Onyx, have crossed the Atlantic three times in three years aboard their Bowman 57 ketch Aleria, spending years cruising the Caribbean and Atlantic islands as well as the American and European coasts. They are now in Ireland planning their next adventure.

Daria is a proud member of the Ocean Cruising Club Committee, Seven Seas Cruising Association (cruising station for Ireland), American Yacht Club and Mayo Sailing Club.  She and Alex periodically conduct their Happy Hooking webinar for Seven Seas University.

More from Daria Blackwell on this website:

• What I like best about cruising? Passages and anchorages: a world of your own
• Chance encounters between ships and whales:  Part 1 – Part 2

Please join us for a lively interactive learning session about everyone’s favorite topic: anchoring. Don’t be intimidated by anchoring bullies. Here are the details:

Education for those long winter months – Seven Seas University Presents:

Happy Hooking – the Art of Anchoring

• with Captains Daria & Alex Blackwell
• Saturday February 12 at 1000 CST (1100 EST, 1600 GMT)

Whether you are sailing your own vessel locally or chartering in the Caribbean or beyond, knowing how to safely and effectively anchor is one of the most essential and liberating skills you can have.

Knowing about anchors, rodes, anchorages and anchoring techniques is a prerequisite for enjoying an evening in a magically beautiful setting as well as getting a good night’s sleep while swinging from the hook.

Much has changed over the years and the new gear offers serious technical advances over the older standard options.  The goal of this session is to either help you get more confident using the gear you have, or to help you select new gear and understand how to deploy it correctly.  We’ll be discussing available equipment and its performance under simulated and real conditions.

In addition, we will cover:

• Tackle and Anchor Selection
• Techniques for Setting the Anchor
• Scope, Chafe, Snubbers, Kellets, Trip Lines and More
• Anchorage Selection: Charts & Guides, Picking Your Spot, Swing Radius
• Setting Two Anchors and Med Mooring
• Weighing Anchor
• Anchoring Etiquette

Visit Seven Seas U to register today!

About Daria Blackwell

Daria Blackwell is a lifelong sailor and passionate cruiser. She has completed three Atlantic crossings and spent years cruising the coasts of the Americas and Europe, as well as the Bahamas, the Caribbean islands, and the Atlantic islands, most recently double-handing on their vintage 57-foot ketch, Aleria, with her husband, Alex, and cruising kitty, Onyx.

Daria holds a USCG OUPV Captain’s license and is a member of SSCA (Seven Seas Cruising Association), Mayo Sailing Club (Westport, Ireland) and American Yacht Club (Rye, NY). The Blackwells are also the organizers of the SSCA cruising station for Ireland.

The Blackwells are co-authors of Happy Hooking: The Art of Anchoring, which has received excellent reviews in the sailing press. Their seminar on anchoring has drawn large crowds and delivered exceptional attendee critiques and comments (Reference: SailAmerica). Most recently, they have been delivering seminars (on anchoring as well as other cruising topics) online and live via the Seven Seas University of SSCA, GLCC, yacht clubs and boat shows.

Daria is a frequent author about their sailing adventures, contributing to Cruising World, Classic Boat, Latitudes & Attitudes Seafaring, Practical Boat Owner, Ireland Afloat, Offshore, Windcheck, Spinsheet, Points East and elsewhere. For many years, Daria and Alex served as the webmasters for the website of American Yacht Club and launched the popular www.CoastalBoating.net, “the boaters’ resource for places to go and things to know”. As founders of Sail4Kids Make a Memory Cruise, the Blackwells were recognized with prestigious awards by both American Yacht Club and the International Society for Perpetuation of Cruelty to Racing Yachtsmen.

More information

• For more information on this webinar or to register, go to: Seven Seas U: Happy Hooking webinar.
  Can’t make the webinar? You can also download it later or buy the book.
• Happy Hooking – the Art of Anchoring is available on www.Coastalboating.net and Amazon.com.

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