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		<title>Join two-time circumnavigator Nancy Erley at the Women&#8217;s Sailing Conference</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 May 2010 23:01:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nancy Erley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[NWSA's 9th annual Women's Sailing Conference is only two weeks away! Come join us! It will take place Saturday June 5, 2010 at the Corinthian Yacht Club on beautiful Marblehead Harbor in Massachusetts. Nancy Erley, two-time circumnavigator, calculates that this will be her 6th year at the conference.  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>NWSA’s 9th Annual <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/">Women’s Sailing Conference</a> (a <em>Take the Helm</em>® event) is only two weeks away! Come join us! It will take place Saturday June 5, 2010 at the Corinthian Yacht Club on beautiful Marblehead Harbor in Massachusetts.</p>
<p>Nancy Erley, two-time circumnavigator, calculates that this will be her 6th year at the conference. One year she traveled all the way from London to attend!</p>
<p>Why does she keep coming back as a volunteer instructor?</p>
<p>Nancy says: “<strong><em>I love being with a big group of women who all love what I love – sailing.  And this is a very well organized conference at an exceptional venue. </em></strong>“</p>
<p>We asked Nancy to tell us about the workshops she will be giving this year:</p></blockquote>
<p>This year I’m giving 3 workshops:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nwsadocking.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="NWSA docking practice" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nwsadocking_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="NWSA docking practice" width="204" height="170" align="right" /></a></p>
<h6>1. How to turn your boat around in tight spaces using spring lines:</h6>
<p>I’ll show where to tie the line in order to drive against it and spring the boat away from the dock.  </p>
<p>We will use a boat at the dock and flip it around every which way with whatever long lines we can find aboard. </p>
<p>We may be tying two dock lines together to get the length we need to turn the boat completely around at the dock without the engine.</p>
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<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nwsaheavelinenancy.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="NWSA-heaving-line" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nwsaheavelinenancy_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="NWSA-heaving-line" width="204" height="166" align="right" /></a></p>
<h6>2. How to heave a line:</h6>
<p>We will toss at a lawn chair for target practice using 50’ heaving lines that I’ve made with a monkey’s fist on the end. </p>
<p>We’ll also use spare old halyards and see that they toss pretty well too if coiled right, and Hall Spar and Rigging is donating 2 lines for us to toss as well.</p>
<h6><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/SunriseSunset0274.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Sunset at sea" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/SunriseSunset0274_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Sunset at sea" width="204" height="136" align="right" /></a> 3. Night Sailing:</h6>
<p>This is an classroom presentation about the awesomeness of sailing at night on the ocean and how to keep watch coupled with the details of lighted aids to navigation and lights on vessels.</p>
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<h6><em>About the Women’s Sailing Conference</em></h6>
<p>NWSA’s 9th annual <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/">Women’s Sailing Conference</a> (a <em>Take the Helm</em>® event) will take place Saturday June 5, 2010 at the Corinthian Yacht Club on beautiful Marblehead Harbor in Massachusetts.</p>
<p>It’s a full day of learning, sailing, sharing, networking, and good fun. You can participate in a variety of workshops for women of all sailing abilities, presented by some of the best women sailors around.</p>
<p>You can select on-land and on-water workshops that match your interests and abilities. (Registration is on a first-come, first-served basis, and you must sign up in advance.)  Both NWSA members and non-members are welcome. </p>
<p>Women and Cruising founder Kathy Parsons will be the keynote speaker at the evening’s dinner, so come join us!</p>
<p><strong><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nwsa-logo-small.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-2816" title="nwsa-logo-small" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nwsa-logo-small.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="113" /></a>For more information and to register:</em></strong></p>
<p>Visit the website of the <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/">National Women’s Sailing Association</a>. You will find information on the conference on the home page with a link to the registration form and conference schedule.</p>
<p><em><strong>See also:</strong></em></p>
<ul>
<li><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2010/04/see-you-at-womens-sailing-conference-2010/">See you at the Women’s Sailing Conference June 5, 2010 in Marblehead, MA!</a> (our first blog post announcing the conference)</li>
</ul>
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<h6><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nancyerly.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="nancy-erley" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/nancyerly_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="nancy-erley" width="204" height="227" align="right" /></a> About Nancy Erley</em></h6>
<p>Nancy Erley led two voyages from Seattle around the world aboard her Orca 38 sailboat, <span class="boat_name">Tethys</span>.</p>
<p>“As the skipper of an all-woman crew, Nancy fashioned a circumnavigation that should go down in the record books as one of the soundest, most seamanlike journeys in the modern cruising era. Like all competent voyages, <span class="boat_name">Tethys</span> circumnavigation was notable for its lack of disasters.” George Day, publisher <span class="publication">Blue Water Sailing</span> magazine.</p>
<p>Founder of Tethys Offshore, Nancy teaches the skills to take a small boat across an ocean, from competent crew to ocean skipper. She holds her USCG 50-ton Master of Oceans and 100-ton Master Near Coastal licenses, is an Instructor Evaluator-Ocean for the International Sail and Power Association, a ham radio operator (ki7dp), and an advanced scuba diver and delivery skipper.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/boat.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="boat" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/boat_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="boat" width="240" height="182" align="right" /></a> In 2006 Nancy was presented with the Leadership in Women’s Sailing Award sponsored by BoatUS and the National Women’s Sailing Association. The award honors a male or female who has built a record of achievement in inspiring, educating and enriching the lives of women through sailing.</p>
<p>Nancy is now in the Pacific Northwest scheduling learning cruises for women aboard <span class="boat_name">Tethys</span>. She also offers private instruction aboard the learner’s boat for both men and women, ocean deliveries as captain or onboard advisor, and voyaging consultation. Her website is <a href="http://www.tethysoffshore.com/">www.tethysoffshore.com</a></p>
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		<title>See you at the Women&#8217;s Sailing Conference June 5, 2010 in Marblehead, MA!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 24 Apr 2010 19:53:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathy Parsons</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsafunfriendship.jpg"></a> Would you like to improve your sailing skills while meeting lots of cool women and having FUN?</p>
<p>Sign up for NWSA&#8217;s 9th annual <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">Women’s Sailing Conference</a>, a Take the Helm® event!</p>
<p>It will take place Saturday June 5, 2010 at the Corinthian Yacht Club on beautiful Marblehead Harbor in Massachusetts. (I will be there!)</p>
<p>It’s a  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsafunfriendship.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="A full day of learning, sailing, sharing, networking and fun. Photo: Bill Scanlon" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsafunfriendship_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="A full day of learning, sailing, sharing, networking and fun. Photo: Bill Scanlon" width="244" height="149" align="right" /></a> Would you like to improve your sailing skills while meeting lots of cool women and having FUN?</p>
<p>Sign up for NWSA&#8217;s 9th annual <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">Women’s Sailing Conference</a>, a <em>Take the Helm</em>® event!</p>
<p>It will take place Saturday June 5, 2010 at the Corinthian Yacht Club on beautiful Marblehead Harbor in Massachusetts. (I will be there!)</p>
<p>It’s a full day of learning, sailing, sharing, networking, and good fun. You can participate in a variety of workshops for women of all sailing abilities, presented by some of the best women sailors around. <span id="more-2678"></span></p>
<p>The conference is a great way to learn more about sailing, acquire new tactics and techniques, hone your nautical skills, and meet women who share your interest and enthusiasm for being on the water.</p>
<p>You can select on-land and on-water workshops that match your interests and abilities. (Registration is on a first-come, first-served basis.)</p>
<p>Take a chance on winning exciting prizes in the raffle and silent auction, with proceeds benefiting the National Women&#8217;s Sailing Association (NWSA) AdventureSail® program for young girls at risk.</p>
<p>Here are this year’s workshops:</p>
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<h4>Workshops on Land</h4>
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<td width="315" valign="top"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsacleatpractice.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Knots and cleating off, Photo: Bill SCanlon" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsacleatpractice_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Knots and cleating off, Photo: Bill SCanlon" width="264" height="244" align="left" /></a> </td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Charting*</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Hands-on experience reading charts and plotting courses.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Finding a Fix*</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Must have basic understanding of charting &amp; finding lat/long. Bring handheld compass.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Knots to Know</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn to tie basic knots and practice their best applications.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Heave a Line</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn how to throw a line. An emergency is not the time to learn this skill.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Understanding the Wind</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">How to work with the wind – the foundation of sailing knowledge</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Suddenly Singlehanded</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Suddenly you’re alone on the boat. How to get help and get home.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Troubleshooting a Diesel Engine</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Overview of a diesel engine and basic troubleshooting.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Long-term Cruising</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">How to plan for health, safety, comfort, food &amp; drink, repairs, insurance, chart kits etc.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Night Sailing</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Skills and hints for safe sailing after dark.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Using Spring Lines</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">How to get your boat out of tight places using spring lines.</td>
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<h4>Workshops on a Boat</h4>
<p>PFDs required.</td>
<td width="303" valign="top"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsaspinnakerpole.jpg"><img style="display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="Spinnaker pole handling, Photo credit: Rebecca Waters" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsaspinnakerpole_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Spinnaker pole handling, Photo credit: Rebecca Waters" width="264" height="180" /></a></td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Boat Systems</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Explore electrical systems, marine heads, the oven, etc. – and what can go wrong.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Spinnakers</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn to pack and set the spinnaker, jibe the pole – for the intermediate sailor.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Reef, Flake, Fold Sails*</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn to reef, flake &amp; fold sails, sail care &amp; best methods for putting sails away.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>What’s on Deck?</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn names of rigging &amp; function; how to move around, what not to do when you’re on deck.</td>
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<table border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" width="488">
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<td width="183" valign="top">
<h4>Workshops on the Water</h4>
<p>PFDs required.</td>
<td width="303" valign="top"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsacrewoverboardtraining2.jpg"><img style="display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="Women's Sailing Conference - Crew Overboard Training" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsacrewoverboardtraining2_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Women's Sailing Conference - Crew Overboard Training" width="264" height="227" /></a></td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Crew Overboard</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn how to rescue and retrieve a person from the water.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Introduction to Sailing</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Introduction to sailing skills and terminology &#8211; for novices.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Introduction to Sailing</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Enhance your knowledge of basic racing; for those now or soon to be racing.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Sail Trim</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Learn how to trim your sails for optimum efficiency.– for the intermediate sailor.</td>
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<td width="168" valign="top"><strong>Take the Helm</strong></td>
<td width="315" valign="top">Practice steering the boat at various points of sail. You must know how to sail.</td>
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<p>* Sessions last all morning or all afternoon.</p>
<hr size="1" /><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsabanquet.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Women's Sailing Conference Dinner, Photo: Bill Scanlon" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsabanquet_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Women's Sailing Conference Dinner, Photo: Bill Scanlon" width="244" height="169" align="right" /></a>Your registration fee includes workshops, continental breakfast, lunch, dinner and keynote speaker, one raffle ticket, registrant packet, and “goodie bag.” </p>
<p>I am so HONORED to be the keynote speaker at the evening dinner this year.</p>
<p>Marblehead is a beautiful place and I am excited about the weekend. I took my very first sailing class in Marblehead years ago – and have quite a few memories of adventures around Marblehead from my first sailing days. See you there!</p>
<p>As my friend Betsy Morris,who will be giving the <strong>Long-term Cruising</strong> and <strong>Take the Helm</strong> workshops, says of the conference:</p>
<blockquote><p>“This great big room is full of women sailors &#8211; some have been around the world, some race, some merely open the beers, but every single one wants to do more and to share it with other women.  It&#8217;s uplifting!”</p></blockquote>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsalogosmall.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="NWSA logo" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/nwsalogosmall_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="NWSA logo" width="150" height="115" align="right" /></a>Due to space limitation, registration is on a first-come, first-served basis, and you must sign up in advance. Both NWSA members and non-members are welcome.  For more information and to register:</p>
<ul>
<li>Visit the website of the <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">National Women’s Sailing Association</a>. You will find information on the conference on the home page with a link to the registration form and conference schedule.</li>
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		<title>Ruth Allen&#8217;s secret weapon against fear: the theme song from Gilligan&#8217;s Island</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Apr 2010 18:38:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ruth Allen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My first sail was on May 24th 1999, I was 41 years old.

My husband had sailed from the time he was a young boy, starting off in dinghies. We had purchased Thetis, a Halcyon 23, restored her and were now ready to sail.

There was one small problem: her engine was  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/ruthPEBaySailingSept09.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Ruth Allen , sailing P.E. Bay, September 2009" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/ruthPEBaySailingSept09_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Ruth Allen , sailing P.E. Bay, September 2009" width="244" height="185" align="right" /></a> My first sail was on May 24<sup>th</sup> 1999, I was 41 years old.</strong></p>
<p>My husband had sailed from the time he was a young boy, starting off in dinghies. We had purchased <em class="boat_name">Thetis</em>, a Halcyon 23, restored her and were now ready to sail.</p>
<p>There was one small problem: her engine was not functioning. A long time sailor and racer told us shove her off the dock and go sailing.</p>
<p>That first day was uneventful, the sailing was nice, and sailing to the dock went well.</p>
<p>Sailing to the dock was something we continued to do even after we had a motor, to keep in practice and because that little boat was so easy to handle.</p>
<p><strong>Our second sail was a different matter.</strong></p>
<p><span id="more-2537"></span>The winter before we launched <span class="boat_name">Thetis</span>, we had taken courses.</p>
<p>I knew all the correct names for things and some basic navigation skills but really had no practical experience. One sail does not count.</p>
<p>On that second day we ran down the reach under the genoa. It was a nice little run. As usually happens in that area the wind picked up, and when we turned to head back I felt the boat was over pressed.</p>
<p>An unsuccessful tack put us too close to a point, at least that is how it seemed to me.</p>
<p><strong>At this point I began being frightened, which was heightened when my husband said we need to raise the main.</strong></p>
<p>I thought (not understanding the balance of the sails) that if we were hard pressed with one sail, two would be entirely too much.</p>
<p>That was of course wrong…but since I was already scared I did not really process what was being explained to me.</p>
<p>The wind was picking up, white appearing on the water. We were heeled hard over, sailing on her ear as the saying goes. Very dramatic, at least to me, the wanna be sailor.</p>
<p>The main went up, the boat behaved better, until the genoa began to tear. Mark wanted me to steer while he changed head sails, I wanted to do the sail change.</p>
<p>The reach had become quite lumpy with the bow going up and down, <strong>all I could think was if it goes wrong and he goes off the boat, I don&#8217;t know enough to be able to get him out of the water!</strong></p>
<p>It was May and the waters in Lake Ontario are very cold at that time of the year.</p>
<p>I knew where I would run out of water, but that would not help a man overboard. This was a terrifying thought to me.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/gilligansislandshow.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="gilligans-island-show" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/gilligansislandshow_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="gilligans-island-show" width="184" height="140" align="right" /></a> <strong>As I followed the calm concise instructions of Mark I began to hum the theme from the old TV show <em>Gilligan&#8217;s Island</em>.</strong> <em>(If you are unfamiliar with this song or show, see end of post.)</em></p>
<p>Sail changed down to a working jib, we made our way to our dock and sailed up to it quite nicely once again.</p>
<p><strong>I decided on that day, that I had to learn more about sail handling and boat handling. It was clearly unsafe to do anything else.</strong></p>
<p>I still hummed that tune whenever I got nervous, and I kept on sailing.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/ruthatthehelmdismalswamp.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="Ruth at the helm, Dismal Swamp Canal" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/ruthatthehelmdismalswamp_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Ruth at the helm, Dismal Swamp Canal" width="244" height="185" align="right" /></a>I also became the wind watcher&#8230;scanning the horizon for signs of wind changes, mostly looking for the signs of increasing wind, so we could change down sails, before becoming hard pressed.</p>
<p>The same conditions we encountered on my second sail would not be frightening to me today, which is not to say that I never get nervous.</p>
<p>Sailing more and learning more each time helps me feel more competent and less nervous.</p>
<blockquote><p><strong><em>Gilligan’s Island</em></strong></p>
<p>Quite a few of us grew up watching the TV show <em>Gilligan’s Island</em>.</p>
<p>(In case you are unfamiliar with this 1960&#8217;s sitcom, five passengers and two crew set sail on the charter boat <span class="boat_name">Minnow</span> on a three-hour cruise. They shipwreck in a storm and take refuge on an uninhabited tropical island where they remain stranded throughout the series.)</p>
<p>And perhaps it has affected our view of cruising. Here is the theme for Gilligan’s Island, thanks to YouTube.</p>
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<hr size="1" /><strong><em>About Ruth Allen</em></strong></p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/ruthreadytodropinlock2.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; display: inline; border-width: 0px;" title="Ruth, ready to drop down in the lock" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/ruthreadytodropinlock2_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Ruth, ready to drop down in the lock" width="244" height="185" align="right" /></a> I have been living aboard <span class="boat_name">Witchcraft</span>, my Tom Colvin designed ketch for the last six years. As soon as my four children were launched my husband (Mark) and I emptied the house, and left the land behind.</p>
<p>We are not full time cruisers since we are not retired. I work at West Marine Canada which gives me the opportunity to combine work and pleasure.</p>
<p>I live in Canada and sail every chance I get. I came to sailing later in life and found a new passion.</p>
<p>Visit Ruth’s blog: <a href="http://www.mytb.org/svwitchcraft">www.mytb.org/svwitchcraft</a></p>
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<h6>Related articles</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/category/features/how-we-learn/">How We Learn</a> – Women tell us how they have learned the skills they need to sail and cruise (here on the Women and Cruising blog)</li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/2008/01/17-the-need-to-know/">The Need to Know</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #17 )</li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2006/11/3-getting-started/">Getting Started</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #3 )</li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2007/08/12-the-life-skills-of-black-sheep/" target="_blank">The Life Skills of Black Sheep</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #12)</li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/resources.htm#LearningToSail" target="_blank">Learning to Sail</a> (Resource Listing on Women and Cruising’s <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/resources.htm" target="_blank">Resources</a> page)</li>
</ul>
<h6>More info</h6>
<ul>
<li><span class="note">Ruth’s blog: <a href="http://www.mytb.org/svwitchcraft">www.mytb.org/svwitchcraft</a></span></li>
</ul>
<blockquote><p><strong>What helps when you feel afraid? What challenged you to learn to become a good sailor?</strong></p>
<p>Leave a comment below or email us: <a href="mailto:kathy@forcruisers.com">kathy@forcruisers.com</a></p></blockquote>
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		<title>Laurie&#8217;s epic journey to conquer her fear of the water</title>
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		<dc:creator>Laurie Clark</dc:creator>
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I don’t know why I’m terrified of water.
<p>It’s not as though I have memories of any tragic or traumatic moment in my life, such as I’ve heard others tell when detailing their fear of the deep.</p>
<p>In fact, I remember a few family outings as a child to Terracina or Sabaudia or even San Felice (Italy)  [...]]]></description>
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<h5 class="color-brown">I don’t know why I’m terrified of water.</h5>
<p>It’s not as though I have memories of any tragic or traumatic moment in my life, such as I’ve heard others tell when detailing their fear of the deep.</p>
<p>In fact, I remember a few family outings as a child to Terracina or Sabaudia or even San Felice (Italy) &#8211; beautiful warm water – like soup actually &#8211; and beaches that stretched for miles on the Mediterranean side of Italy (just south of Rome, where I come from) that were filled with laughter and a lot of splashing.</p>
<p>Of course great food was always a requirement for these outings, making us totally stuffed and horribly heavy as we waddled back into the soup after lunch.</p>
<p>I remember the beaches seemed very long and wide, a bit of a walk to arrive at the shoreline, and the sandbars seemed to go out for miles before the deep water.</p>
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<p>My father swam well and enjoyed swimming – <strong>so why was I so frightened?</strong></p>
<h5 class="color-brown">Well, let’s do what all analysts do</h5>
<p>…let’s break it down into small sections.</p>
<p><strong>Dad swam, Mom did not</strong>, my sister didn’t when small and only does so on occasion as an adult, my brother…not sure actually. I don’t swim and my son is now terrified of water and doesn’t swim (not proud of this legacy).</p>
<p><strong>A friend once commented that Romans bathe, they don’t swim.</strong><br />
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<p>The fact that it takes a long time in order to get to deep water on the Med side of the ‘peninsula’, means that most people frolic in the surf near to shore and just sort of get wet enough for a lovely tanning session <em>(I know – NOT politically correct these days – but if you’ve been to the region, if you are now sitting on that beautiful shore or planning on being there, you have to admit that Italians are like beached smoked fish on the particular beaches I’ve mentioned.)</em></p>
<p><strong>But I’m still not convinced that genealogy or geography has anything to do with this unexplainable fear of the deep blue sea.</strong></p>
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<p>When living in Toronto with my family,<strong> any lake that we visited was deep, dark and filled with weeds </strong>that made it difficult to see anything, let alone the bottom.</p>
<p>That particular environment wasn’t welcoming, but <strong>still I don’t think this is enough</strong> to instill the kind of fear of the water that lies deep within me.</p>
<h5 class="color-brown">Let me explain.</h5>
<p><strong>I’ve been taking lessons for years.</strong></p>
<p>I was always in a school that had a pool and throughout high school, swimming or some type of aquatic activity was a requirement for gym.</p>
<p>So why was every single person who took lessons able to get over their fear and learn to swim, <strong>except me</strong>? I’ve been asking this question for years.</p>
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<p><strong>I was on the varsity diving team for goodness sakes!</strong></p>
<p>I swear. An explanation is in order:</p>
<p>I was in gymnastics for a very long time, and could tumble like the lightest weed in an arid desert.</p>
<p>On the diving team, I could get up to the tallest tower (no fear of heights), and perform the most amazing and fun tumbles (no fear of broken bones).</p>
<p>When I would enter the water…..wait for it….my coach would extend the ‘hook’ over the side of the pool so I could grapple onto it to lift myself out of the pool – like a flailing smoked fish! Needless to say, no perfect scores.</p>
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<h5 class="color-brown">OK, so let’s break it down a little more.</h5>
<p><strong>Mom was scared of the water.</strong></p>
<p>She would warn:</p>
<p><em>“Don’t go out in the water after you’ve eaten or you’ll drown”</em></p>
<p>or,  <em>“Don’t go out past the surf or you’ll get towed under”</em></p>
<p>or  <em>“Don’t go out too far because I can’t save you”.</em></p>
<p>Well ok – I might be getting somewhere now….but still not enough to cause this insane fear (I think).</p>
<p><strong>Let’s look at my own personality.</strong></p>
<p>I’m a control freak. Triple A is too low a category for me.</p>
<p>I have to know everything about everything I’m doing at all times as well as control it ALL and be the BEST ever at everything. And when I’m in the water, no way can I let go and just relax enough to let the buoyancy of the water help me along. NO WAY.</p>
<p>I took more swimming lessons than you care to know about or that I can even recall.</p>
<blockquote><p><em><strong>Here are some facts that I have learned about swimming over the years of endless lessons:</strong></em></p>
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<p>These are facts I’ve experienced and don’t enjoy and yet, apparently, many others have overcome. <strong>Why not me?</strong></p>
<h5 class="color-brown">In fact, I actually took up sailing to get over this damnable fear</h5>
<p>That’s right. I figure if you have to get over something it’s best to do it head on. So in 2004 I embarked on what I now term my “IN THE EYE OF THE STORM” period of my life.</p>
<p>It was quite figurative actually as I was also going through a horrible divorce and storms were brewing everywhere.</p>
<p>I paid my ‘lots of thousands of dollars’, took the Colgate Offshore Sailing School courses – this one was held in the BVI’s, (both beginner and intermediate courses &#8211; because why go at all if you can’t do it all at once?) (Did I mention I was &gt; Triple A?), and lo and behold I was down in the playground of the sailing world and learning to conquer my fear of the big bad blue.</p>
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<p>As luck would have it (I’m not that lucky) there was a horrible northerly that came down and for the first time in years, temps dropped to less than 60°F and the winds and seas were well over 20 knots – swear to ‘whatever you believe in’.</p>
<p><strong>I was petrified.</strong></p>
<p>I remember studying like a fiend to pass the course – did I mention I was &gt;Triple A? I had to get A’s (which I did) but when it came to getting on the boat I did so only through sheer force of will, and I immediately:</p>
<ol>
<li>Came down with bronchitis</li>
<li>Lost my voice</li>
<li>Got my period (which I had scheduled to NOT start during this timeframe)</li>
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<p>I have to admit, though, that even with the rough weather and complete terror I felt when the boat heeled slightly, the Colgate School of Sailing (BVI location) was an amazing learning center.</p>
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<p><strong>The instructors and fellow students were wonderful.</strong></p>
<p>The instructors were kind, with excellent credentials and, in fact, the instructor I had for the intermediate leg of the instruction was Mr. Julian Putley, solo world circumnavigator, writer, humorist and instructor extraordinaire, who was coincidentally the man that commissioned the design of a particular center cockpit cutter by Dudley Dix, that my husband and I eventually deemed the only boat worthy of our custom aluminum dream boat project.</p>
<p>So, here I am, in the playland of the ubersailing world and I’m sick as a dog, scared to death, dealing with my period and NOT enjoying this at all.</p>
<p><strong>However, there was a moment when things did change.</strong></p>
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<p>We sailed to Anegada Island (BVI’s)…  and it was stunning and beautiful and the weather calmed down and the sun was brilliant. The air became warm and the water sparkled like jewels and …ok, so you get the picture.</p>
<p><strong>The sailing started to feel amazing I became hooked…</strong> it didn’t hurt that we had a wonderful beach party that night filled with wine and champagne, making the life experience all the richer.</p>
<p><strong>I passed both the beginner and intermediate levels.</strong></p>
<p>When I returned to Canada, I was able to finally get my divorce <em>($90K for lawyers: he got the house, the cottage, the cars and the money – I got my life back and, looking back, would have paid a hell of a lot more if I had to…but that’s another story completely)</em>.</p>
<p>The storm abated, I moved to Vancouver and decided to take my advanced levels.</p>
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<p>Of course, the CYA doesn’t play nice with the US Sailing Association, so they didn’t recognize my credentials from the earlier courses I took. So I challenged the exams and took both the beginner and intermediate CYA and passed.</p>
<p>Now I was ready to take the advanced levels – off to Coopers Sailing School on Granville Island I did go, and<strong> signed up for the advanced/offshore certification course.</strong></p>
<p>Another salty dog entered my life by the name of Jim Lavers. What a great instructor and a very, very, very patient man. I was the only woman on the boat, with 4 men taking the course. I was not expected, and dare I say, not really wanted.</p>
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<p>I “hot bunked” (<strong><em>Now</em></strong> I know what this means) with the captain (of course!) and off I went circumnavigating Vancouver Island.</p>
<p>Please remember, I’m still afraid of water, but<strong> what I was learning by doing all of this is that I can CONTROL my fear if needed. </strong></p>
<p>Yes, control is a big thing for me, so if I can learn enough about sailing and how water can be viewed as a positive element of the sport, then I can control how I deal with water as a manageable quantity rather than the behemoth-deep, unexplainable, unmanageable, unfriendly, uninviting, mass of wetness (cold, dark and clammy!) that terrorized me.</p>
<p><strong>Guess what? I circumnavigated Vancouver Island!</strong></p>
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<p>We had some hairy times, and some wonderful days; saw amazing coastline and sea life. But for me, it was the people along my journey that became the winning prize at the end of the adventure. I sat my exams at UBCO as I could not muster the strength or courage to sit them during the trip. Did I mention I’m Triple A? Of course, another A.</p>
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<p>Now that I’ve become enamored of sailing and the wonders it can bring to one’s life, and have a beautiful boat to live on<em> (yes ON THE WATER, at Spruce Harbour Marina in one of the most beautiful cities in the world – Vancouver)</em>, I absolutely have to get on with overcoming my inability to stay submersed in the water for any length of time.</p>
<p>It’s also a matter of safety. <strong>I should absolutely be able to at least swim to get into a life raft if ever our boat starts sinking – which I think about a lot!</strong></p>
<p>I’d also like to show my son that his mother overcame her insane fear, and provide (maybe) an example that no matter how old one is, if a person desires something badly enough, they can get it.</p>
<h5 class="color-brown">I truly want to be able to swim and get over my fear of being in water.</h5>
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<p>My husband – a wonderful and supportive man who understands my need to overcome the problem – started investigating <strong>swimming lessons given by instructors who devote their time to persons who are truly afraid of water</strong>, and not just new to the sport.</p>
<p>In other words, a real shift in thought on how to approach a person’s fear and to help them along in their swimming goals, rather than the old fashioned method of teaching through drilling the student with pure rote skills and insanely practicing those skills- that never can be acquired successfully because the student is not responding to that style of instruction because they can’t get into the water and stay there and be comfortable in it.</p>
<p><strong>My husband was able to find a gem of an instructor called Peter.</strong></p>
<p>He himself did not learn to swim until adulthood and still hates water up his nose. However, when he goes into the water, it’s a joy to behold the way he moves with it. He’s incredible to watch – such beauty in motion and such delicate and relaxed movements. He makes it look so graceful and effortless….don’t you hate people like that?!</p>
<p><strong>The first thing that Peter managed to teach me was to find what he called my ‘safe position’.</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong> He asked if I could swim at all. I told him the extent of my skills.</p>
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<li><em>I’m able to float on my back,</em></li>
<li><em>I’m able to do a dead man’s float (hopefully this will never happen for real)</em></li>
<li><em>I’m able to do a sort of crude back stroke</em></li>
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<p>He was impressed. He said, and I quote, “<em>I thought you said you couldn’t swim?</em>”</p>
<p>Ok – so now I’m thinking he’s not that great an instructor and this is another lesson in futility and more money down the drain.  However, <strong>he went on to prove to me that if I could float on my back, then I could use that particular skill as the position to go to when I needed to feel ‘safe’.</strong></p>
<p>If I was able to get to the back float position in a somewhat relaxed state, then my body could use this position as the place to return to when other moments or positions became too frightening or overwhelming for me. It’s kind of funny to learn that after all these years my skill in the water was “laying on my back”!</p>
<p>However, that simple truth must have held some type of honest relief for me, because now when I become overwhelmed in the water, (you know the feeling….panic, then loss of breath, then more panic, then gasping for air, then sheer terror, then spluttering, then coughing) I immediately turn onto my back …NOT gracefully like Super Instructor Peter…but in my own flustered way.</p>
<p>And voilá, I am safe.</p>
<p><strong>The point? I am able to stay in the water now.</strong> What a brilliant idea he had and so dead simple.</p>
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<h5>One could argue that our species is not meant to swim.</h5>
<p>And in fact, I can attest to this statement.</p>
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<p>Swimming is totally counter intuitive and in my case, not at all graceful.</p>
<p>Swimming requires that we keep our head in the water and then turn it sideways until our nose surfaces above the water (not a natural motion) in order to breathe. Think about that for half a second.  <strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Whales breathe out through their nose, WHICH IS ON TOP OF THEIR HEADS,</strong> and have a device built into their bodies (genetics is a wonderful thing) that can clamp their noses shut so that water doesn’t go up it.</p>
<p>Same for porpoises. Hence they swim well and can stay in the water forever.</p>
<p>Last I looked, I’m neither a whale nor a porpoise.</p></blockquote>
<h5 class="color-brown">I don&#8217;t know what happened</h5>
<p>However, on Sunday, January 31, 2010, I went into the pool at the YWCA in downtown Vancouver, as ordered by the doctor, for thrice weekly physio exercises to help heal from an accident sustained in 2009.  I don’t know what happened.</p>
<p>I don’t know if  it was because I was so tired from the earlier exercises and therefore didn’t care so much, I don’t know if I just stopped thinking for a moment or if it was just the time for it to happen, but …  <strong>I put some swim fins on, got into the pool and SWAM TO THE DEEP END AND BACK.</strong></p>
<p>Apparently, the grin on my face was so big that people wondered what was up, and starting asking me about it.</p>
<p>So I told them. “<em>This is the first time in my life that I swam into the deep end on my own.</em>”</p>
<h5 class="color-brown">So now I will continue down this path and keep working on my skills.</h5>
<p>Knowing me, I will take the hardest route. Knowing me, it will not come easy. Knowing me, I will have setbacks before another milestone is reached. Knowing me, I won’t give up until I accomplish my goal.</p>
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<h5>So what should I say to anyone that has true fear of deep dark blue water?</h5>
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<li>It’s valid</li>
<li>You can overcome it</li>
<li>You are not a whale nor a porpoise and therefore must understand that this is counterintuitive</li>
<li>Find classes (private or otherwise) with instructors who teach about overcoming the fear of water</li>
<li>Keep trying</li>
<li>Keep trying</li>
<li>Don’t give up</li>
<li>Be bloody minded</li>
<li>Stop listening to people that say, “What? It’s easy. Why can’t you swim?”</li>
<li>Have a great sense of humour….I do. You should see me in the water! It’s a riot.</li>
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<p>I’m going for a glass of wine tonight, but tomorrow, its swimming lesson time again. Only this time, I know I will live through it and I won’t be as frightened as usual. I might not look great doing it, but I feel incredible knowing how much I have overcome.</p>
<p>And maybe that’s the best lesson of all.</p>
<p>Laurie M. Clark, Tadpole<br />
<span class="boat_name">SV NAMO</span><br />
Vancouver, BC, Canada</p>
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<h5>About Laurie Clark</h5>
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<p>Laurie M. Clark is a very busy (Big Brother speak for “tired”) woman.</p>
<p>The wife of a very loving man by the name of Ian Callum M. Clark, an over the top mother to L.T. Keir Temporale (she’s Italian for god sakes!), and “Alternate Mom” (we hate the “Stepmother” title) to Rebecca E. Clark, Finlay J. Clark and Spencer M. Clark.</p>
<p>Laurie and her husband Ian, live aboard <span class="boat_name">NAMO</span> for the most part in Vancouver at Spruce Harbour Marina in the fabulous South False Creek area, but also enjoy spending time with their great kids in their home in Kelowna, in the Okanagan Valley.</p>
<p>Laurie Clark<strong> </strong>is a respected banking and investment sector specialist. She is the owner and founder of GITTI Inc. (<a href="http://www.gitti.ca">www.gitti.ca</a>) a Corporate Development Strategies firm.</p>
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<p>She and her husband, Ian, along with all their children spend their time sailing in their beautiful custom offshore cutter around the beautiful and scenic Vancouver and Gulf Islands whenever they can.</p>
<p>Laurie’s goal this year is to finish the year by swimming one lap around <span class="boat_name">NAMO</span>. The family’s goal is to leave the West one day soon for adventures unknown across the many and great seas.</p>
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<h6>Related articles (on this website)</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/resources.htm#LearningToSail">Learning to Sail</a> (resources and links)</li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/category/features/how-we-learn/">How We Learn</a> (blog)</li>
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		<title>How answering a personal ad led me to become a skilled cruiser</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dierdre Wogaman</dc:creator>
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<p>In December 1992 I answered one more personal ad in the “Columbus Monthly” magazine, a glossy trendy publication in Columbus, Ohio.  I responded by writing a note, as it was before Internet dating and instant gratification.  Don called me after receiving that note.</p>
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<p>In December 1992 I answered one more personal ad in the “Columbus Monthly” magazine, a glossy trendy publication in Columbus, Ohio.  I responded by writing a note, as it was before Internet dating and instant gratification.  Don called me after receiving that note.</p>
<h5>What I did not understand at first was that he was actually looking for a cruising partner.</h5>
<p>While on my first phone call with Don, I learned that people actually lived on boats.  What a novel idea!  It had never occurred to me.<span id="more-1629"></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><img title="I got to meet the pets of some Kuna kids in the San Blas Islands of Panama!" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/D-Pets-San-Blas.jpg" alt="I got to meet the pets of some Kuna kids in the San Blas Islands of Panama!" width="244" height="184" /></p>
<p>I got to meet the pets of some Kuna kids in the San Blas Islands of Panama!</td>
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<p>Don’s life goal was to go cruising.  He tried to explain that concept to me, how two alone could sail to wonderful exotic places together.</p>
<p>Since I am a social sort of person, I was immediately concerned about being separated from [other people and] my friends. However, Don’s inspired answer, “<em>We will be in Paradise, with an extra bedroom&#8230;</em>” settled me down so that I could listen to the remainder of the sales pitch from him.</p>
<h5>Don was convinced that I would make a good cruiser.</h5>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><img title="Riding in Bonaire" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/D-riding-in-Bonaire.jpg" alt="Riding in Bonaire" width="244" height="184" /></p>
<p>I really enjoyed swimming the paso fino stallion Indy while in Bonaire</td>
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<p>I was a certified scuba diver, an avid horseback rider,  a sky diver, a water skier, a snow skier, and a lover of traveling.</p>
<p>He also quickly learned that I am frugal, and I love to try new things.  Cruising is an excellent venue for both, as I have learned.</p>
<p>Right off the bat, Don lent to me the book <span class="publication">Blown Away</span> by Herb Payson.  He writes with great humor about his family’s hard lessons and misadventures as new cruisers.  It is a fun read that leads you to believe that anyone can indeed cruise.</p>
<p>He also had me read <span class="publication">Lynn and Larry Pardey’s books</span> for a more serious look at the good and bad possibilities. I was hooked, but being a newbie to sailing I needed to get on track to cram sailing knowledge in my head.</p>
<h5>Don suggested that I take the beginning boating courses offered by the <a href="http://www.columbussailandpower.org/" target="_blank"><strong>United States Sail and Power Squadron in Columbus Ohio.</strong></a></h5>
<p>As a self-taught boater who was already distance sailing on the Great Lakes, Don did not feel it necessary to take these courses.  However, realizing that he would become my hands on teacher, he decided to take the courses with me to avoid confusing me later with contradictory practices and jargon. <img class="pic-left" title="United States Power Squadron logo" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/power-squadron-logo.jpg" alt="United States Power Squadron logo" width="115" height="115" /></p>
<p>Believe it or not, at the time we joined the <span class="organization">Columbus Squadron</span> they were the largest Sail and Power Squadron in the USA, vying for that distinction with the Fort Lauderdale, Florida Squadron.  That is pretty amazing since Columbus is land locked, with the nearest big water being Lake Erie almost three hours north of the city.  But, lucky for us, our Squadron was blessed with many excellent experienced blue water boaters as instructors.</p>
<p>We ended up taking almost all of their courses together.  <em>Basic boating</em>, <em>Seamanship</em>, <em>Piloting</em>, <em>Advanced Piloting</em>, <em>Sailing,</em> <em>Weather</em> (very hard but excellent), <em>Engine Maintenance</em>, <em>Marine Electronics</em>, and began but did not finish, <em>Junior Navigation</em> (offshore and celestial).</p>
<p>I highly recommend those courses, as they can be done in the winter when you can’t sail in many parts of the U.S. and they are very reasonably priced. You may not meet a lot of cruising sailors in the Sail and Power Squadron, but you can make lots of friends who will encourage you.</p>
<p>For Christmas 1993, Don gave me training with a female captain, on “our” boat.</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><img title="SOUTHERN CROSS sailing in the British Virgin Islands " src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/D-Southern-Cross.jpg" alt="SOUTHERN CROSS sailing in the British Virgin Islands " width="163" height="244" /></p>
<p>SOUTHERN CROSS sailing in the British Virgin Islands</td>
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<h5>Patty Moore from <a href="http://www.seasenseboating.com/"><strong>Sea Sense</strong></a>, the sailing school for women, came and stayed with us on SOUTHERN CROSS for two days to train me “hands on” on our boat.</h5>
<p>Many times, learning from your significant other can be difficult; think back to trying to learn how to parallel park from your parents, not a pretty sight that is for sure.</p>
<p>Learning to sail from your significant other can be the same,  but worse, because the experienced partner may not have the patience to share the tasks that the learner needs to practice.</p>
<p>Take my advice and try to learn basic boat handling one on one from someone who is trained to teach, and preferably on your own boat.  This I highly recommend.</p>
<p>Don was allowed on the boat for half of one day while we practiced a man-over-board drill.  Once he was off the boat, Patty showed me how to pivot the boat and how to dock, among other things.</p>
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<h5>Prior to Patty I had NEVER docked, ever. Now I am the primary pilot and Don is the line handler.</h5>
<p>Docking is still a bit of a nervous time for me, but I continue to practice so much that Don complains that he will forget if I do not let him dock once in awhile. Actually, neither one of us get to dock much as we anchor out most of the time.</p>
<h5>While we were both still working hard to accumulate a cruising kitty we tried to take three-week vacations.</h5>
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<td class="caption" style="text-align: center;"><img title="We are out exploring in the Bahamas." src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/D-Bahamas.jpg" alt="We are out exploring in the Bahamas." width="244" height="184" /> We are out exploring in the Bahamas.</td>
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<td class="caption" style="text-align: center;"><img title="The first seahorse I found. I was snorkeling in the Bahamas." src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/D--Bahamian-seahorse.jpg" alt="The first seahorse I found. I was snorkeling in the Bahamas." width="240" height="240" /> The first seahorse I found. I was snorkeling in the Bahamas.</td>
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<p>Since the boat was located in Lake Erie we would head north to Lake Huron, the North Channel, North Georgian Bay or perhaps Lake Michigan, usually covering about a thousand miles.</p>
<p>We sailed one week to get there, a week to have fun and then a week to get back.  This helped to give me an idea of what the cruising life might be like.  No, it is really not live aboard cruising, but it was the best facsimile we could do.</p>
<p>Those trips and a few bare boat charters in the Caribbean or the Bahamas in the winter really kept us focused on our goal.</p>
<p>There needs to be Joy in your work and plans. <strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>For me, not being afraid to get my hands dirty and a willingness to learn new and different things was a great asset to learning to cruise.</strong></p>
<h5>I will admit I feel I am lucky in the partner I have.</h5>
<p>Don is an excellent teacher, as he taught coal miners about electricity, and he has a wonderfully calm and cool personality.  He rarely gets upset and does not yell.  So I am indeed blessed.</p>
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<h5>About Dierdre Atkinson Wogaman</h5>
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<p><em>Dierdre  sails with her husband Don Wogaman aboard SOUTHERN CROSS, their 1974 Dickerson 41 ketch. </em><em>Designed by Ernie Tucker of Oxford, MD near the Dickerson plant this is the very first Dickerson 41 and was the last wooden boat Dickerson built.</em></p>
<p><em>Don bought the boat from her original owners, Neville and Louise Lewis who sailed her around the world with their son Chris aboard from 1975 to 1979.  They sold SOUTHERN CROSS in 1984 to Don and then he moved her from the Chesapeake Bay to the Great Lakes.</em> <em> </em></p>
<p><em>Retiring and selling out of house and horse, Dierdre and Don moved to northern Ohio, Port Clinton to be exact, to be near the boat to finish prepping for cruising.  In July 2002 they moved aboard and actually dropped the dock lines on October 17, 2002 to head east and then south.   It was not quite quick enough as they ran into some very cold temperatures along the way going through the Erie Canal.</em></p>
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<td class="caption" style="text-align: center;"><img title="D &amp; Don are passing by the Statue of Liberty" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/D_&amp;_lady_liberty.jpg" alt="D &amp; Don are passing by the Statue of Liberty." width="145" height="118" /> Dierdre &amp; Don are passing by the Statue of Liberty after having transited the Erie canal.</td>
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<p><em>Not straying too far from Ohio, due to Don’s elderly parents’ failing health, kept them in the Chesapeake Bay that first winter.  Subsequent years they sailed the East Coast from as far north as Cutler Maine and as far south as the Dry Tortugas and around Florida’s west coast up to Clearwater, following the seasons. </em></p>
<p><em>By 2006 it was time to venture further a field to the Bahamas, and then later to the Caribbean.</em> <em>One winter in the Bahamas and over two years in the eastern and western Caribbean finally made them feel like they were really cruising. </em></p>
<p><em>It has been a glorious time and thoroughly enjoyed, and after 7 years, 22,000 miles and countless new friendships they still feel like they are just getting started.</em> <em> </em></p>
<p><em>Now they are tied to a dock in Oriental, North Carolina’s sailing capitol, while remodeling the interior of the boat to prepare for future adventures.  If you are in the area be sure and give them a shout.</em> <em><a href="mailto:dndonwogs@gmail.com">dndonwogs@gmail.com</a></em></p>
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<h6>More info</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0924486953?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0924486953" target="_blank">Blown Away</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wacblog1-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0924486953" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> by Herb Payson</em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&amp;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Fentity%2FLin-Pardey%2FB001HCZ0PU%3Fie%3DUTF8%26ref_%3Dsr%5Fntt%5Fsrch%5Flnk%5F1%26qid%3D1266611512%26sr%3D8-1&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957" target="_blank">Larry and Lin Pardey&#8217;s books</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="https://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wacblog1-20&amp;l=ur2&amp;o=1" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.usps.org/" target="_blank">United States Power Squadron</a></em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.seasenseboating.com/" target="_blank">Seasense Boating School</a>: The Women’s Sailing and Powerboating School</em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/resources.htm#LearningToSail" target="_blank">Learning to Sail Resources</a> (on this website)</em></li>
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<h6>Related articles (on this website)</h6>
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<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2006/11/3-getting-started/" target="_blank">Getting Started</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #3)</em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2009/08/why-kim-hess-got-captains-license/" target="_blank">Why Kim Hess Got her Captain’s License</a></em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2009/09/debbie-leisure-learns-to-sail-her-boat-single-handed/" target="_blank">Debbie Leisure learns to sail her boat single-handed.</a></em></li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2006/12/4-peace-of-mind-emergency-skills" target="_blank">Peace of Mind—Emergency Skills</a> <em>(Admiral&#8217;s Angle column #4)</em></li>
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<blockquote style="text-align: center;"><p><strong>How did YOU learn your sailing/cruising skills?</strong><br />
Let us know. Email <a href="mailto:kathy@forcruisers.com">kathy@forcruisers.com</a> or leave a comment below.</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Debbie Leisure learns to sail her boat single-handed.</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Sep 2009 20:40:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Debbie Leisure</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I learned to sail with my husband.

We took lessons together, chartered boats together, bought our first boat together, and then our next boat—the one in which to go cruising.

I learned my “things” and he learned his.  We tried to cross-train, and sometimes it worked.

It wasn’t until he died suddenly, a couple  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0215.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="Debbie Leisure" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0215_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Debbie Leisure" width="260" height="204" align="right" /></a> I learned to sail with my husband.</p>
<p>We took lessons together, chartered boats together, bought our first boat together, and then our next boat—the one in which to go cruising.</p>
<p>I learned my “things” and he learned his.  We tried to cross-train, and sometimes it worked.</p>
<h5>It wasn’t until he died suddenly, a couple years into our cruise to the Caribbean, that I suddenly realized the many things I didn’t know how to do.</h5>
<p><span id="more-586"></span><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN26661.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="I had never changed the oil or bled the fuel lines without supervision." src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN2666_thumb1.jpg" border="0" alt="I had never changed the oil or bled the fuel lines without supervision." width="220" height="175" align="right" /></a>Several very important things.</p>
<p>I had never picked up a mooring single-handed, never sailed alone, never changed the oil or bled the fuel lines without supervision, and very importantly, I had never, no never, docked the boat.</p>
<p>I made the decision to keep the boat and single-hand, but I have to admit, did not take any real steps to make that a reality.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN01423.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="I was very good at sitting on the boat, attached to a mooring, in Carriacou, Grenada." src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0142_thumb3.jpg" border="0" alt="I was very good at sitting on the boat, attached to a mooring, in Carriacou, Grenada." width="220" height="190" align="right" /></a>I was very good at sitting on the boat, attached to a mooring, in Carriacou, Grenada.</p>
<p>I was okay at sailing with friends on board to crew for me.</p>
<p>But most of the skills that I was not sure that I had and needed, I had to be FORCED to learn.</p>
<h5>A step</h5>
<p>The first time I went sailing alone, I was supposed to be in the company of two or three other boats.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN01782.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Sunset at Union Island in the Grenadines" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0178_thumb2.jpg" border="0" alt="Sunset at Union Island in the Grenadines" width="220" height="187" align="left" /></a>I left earlier on the sail to Union Island, as I was the slowest boat and they would be right behind me. However, they were all delayed in their departure, and I was anchored for hours before anyone else arrived.</p>
<p>I had completed my first sail, with no major problems; I had anchored alone with no advice or assistance.</p>
<p>I would not have planned it that way, but it turned out well and gave me confidence.</p>
<h5>Another step</h5>
<p>Upon leaving the dock one day after taking on water, a friend came on board to assist me in picking up the mooring again.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN26571.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/Debbie-Learning.jpg" border="0" alt="" width="220" height="146" align="right" /></a>However, after getting underway, he informed that I was never going to learn to pick up the mooring alone if everyone kept helping me. So being the good friend that he was, he was going “to do nothing” while I did it alone.  Of course, he was right. He offered a little advice and sat back to watch.</p>
<p>I picked up the mooring without his assistance, gained confidence and never asked anyone again to help me.</p>
<p>Again, I was “forced” into learning a skill and attempting a maneuver I was uncomfortable with, and came away feeling much better about my abilities.</p>
<h5>And another step</h5>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/debbie-docking-1.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="I firmly believed that I could not dock the boat, but Nolan COULD walk on water" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/debbie-docking-1.jpg" border="0" alt="I firmly believed that I could not dock the boat, but Nolan COULD walk on water" width="220" height="152" align="right" /></a>It was about this same time, that Nolan, from the haul-out yard, came out one day in his dinghy to advise me that he was ready to install my new electric windlass if I would just move the boat to the dock.</p>
<p>As he started to motor away, I called him back and explained to him that I did not dock the boat alone, had never docked the boat alone, and he must come onboard to assist me.</p>
<p>Even with assistance, I was not confident in my ability to dock the boat, as I had never docked the boat when my husband was alive and had only docked it a few times since then with experienced people onboard telling me exactly what to do.</p>
<p>However, Nolan had other ideas.  He patiently explained that he was sure that I could dock the boat. He said he would go wait on the dock for me and if I needed assistance, he would “walk on water” to come help me. Since I have great faith in Nolan’s abilities (I firmly believed that I could not dock the boat, but Nolan COULD walk on water), I agreed to do it his way.</p>
<p>I approached the dock with trepidation, but there stood Nolan along with three others from the haul-out yard to help me. Of course, just as Nolan had said, I docked with no problems.</p>
<p>Again, I was forced to learn and acknowledge my abilities that I didn’t even know that I had.</p>
<h5><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/debbie-docking-2.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="I seem to learn best the hard way" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/debbie-docking-2.jpg" border="0" alt="I seem to learn best the hard way" width="220" height="160" align="right" /></a>It seems most of my learning has been that way.</h5>
<p>Forced to do what has to be done, when it must be done.  I seem to learn best the hard way.</p>
<p>But with the help of many friends, sailors, workers and strangers, I continue to learn.</p>
<h5>Heading North</h5>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN05575.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Heading North" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0557_thumb5.jpg" border="0" alt="Heading North" width="179" height="164" align="left" /></a>I left Carriacou, Grenada, in January 2007, having made the decision that it was time for <span class="boat_name">Illusions</span> and I to return to the States.</p>
<p>I had a wonderful buddy boat to travel with, a boat as slow as I was. It took me six months to sail from Carriacou to Puerto Rico.  Some of the stops were just for fun; many were for working on the boat. Either working on things myself, or finding professionals along the way.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN26633.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-width: 0px;" title=" I had engine problems, blew out a sail, broke a dinghy davit, and on my one overnight sail the autopilot failed." src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN2663_thumb3.jpg" border="0" alt=" I had engine problems, blew out a sail, broke a dinghy davit, and on my one overnight sail the autopilot failed." width="180" height="152" align="left" /></a> I had engine problems, blew out a sail, broke a dinghy davit, and on my one overnight sail the autopilot failed.</p>
<p>All these things happened under way and had to be dealt with alone until I could reach the next island and assistance.</p>
<p>I learned patience if nothing else.</p>
<p>I stayed in Puerto Rico a year, then continued on to the U.S. I had a friend that crewed for me for the Puerto Rico to Charleston, SC part of the trip. I did my longest passages to date, only making about four stops between Old San Juan and Charleston.</p>
<h5>Next Steps</h5>
<p>I plan this winter to sail to the Bahamas for the winter.</p>
<p>I try not to think about the things I’ll be forced to learn along the way, but the cruising lifestyle thus far has made it all worthwhile.</p>
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<h6>About Debbie</h6>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0965.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="Illusions - my 29' Island Packet - in Culebra" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/DSCN0965_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Illusions - my 29' Island Packet - in Culebra" width="229" height="184" align="right" /></a> Debbie Leisure sails her 29&#8242; Island Packet, <span class="boat_name">Illusions</span> single-handed. Originally from Missouri, she sailed the Eastern Caribbean for five years. Recently, Oriental NC has been her home base, but she plans to sail to the Bahamas this winter.</p>
<p>Carriacou holds a special place in Debbie’s heart. She flew back this August for the annual <a href="http://www.carriacouregatta.com/" target="_blank">Carriacou Regatta</a>, saw old friends and had a great time racing.</p>
<p>Debbie helped out at last year’s <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2009/08/join-women-and-cruising-annapolis-boat-show/" target="_blank">Women and Cruising Seminar</a> at the Annapolis Boat Show. She shared her experience when women asked about what you need to know in case something happens to your husband/partner. Debbie, along with several other Women and Cruising contributors, hopes to attend <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2009/08/join-women-and-cruising-annapolis-boat-show/" target="_blank">this year</a> as well!</p></blockquote>
<h6>Related articles (on this website)</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2008/11/27-single-women-sailing-part-1/">Single Women Sailing – Part 1</a> (Admiral&#8217;s Angle column #27)</em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2008/12/28-single-women-sailing-part-2/">Single Women Sailing – Part 2</a> (Admiral&#8217;s Angle column #28)</em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/about-cruising.htm#DebbieLeisure" target="_blank">What Debbie Leisure likes most about cruising</a></em></li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2008/01/17-the-need-to-know/">The Need to Know: Sheri Schneider is on her own in the Pacific after her husband is evacuated</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #17)</li>
<li><span class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2007/03/7-doubt-and-the-thrill-zone/" target="_blank">Doubt and the Thrill Zone</a> <em>(Admiral’s Angle column #7)</em></span></li>
</ul>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>How did you learn your sailing/cruising skills?</strong><br />
Let us know. Email <a href="mailto:kathy@forcruisers.com">kathy@forcruisers.com</a> or leave a comment below.</p>
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		<title>Why Kim Hess got her captain&#8217;s license</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Aug 2009 20:41:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kim Hess</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am always being asked what prompted me to get my Captains license or more correctly my Merchant Marine Officers license.

I can’t honestly say when the seed was actually planted or why, but as soon as it was, it began to grow and grow fast.  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Singlehanding_ASA_Course.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="Kim Hess" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Singlehanding_ASA_Course_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Kim Hess" width="260" height="210" align="right" /></a> I am always being asked what prompted me to get my Captains license or more correctly my Merchant Marine Officers license.</p>
<p>I can’t honestly say when the seed was actually planted or why, but as soon as it was, it began to grow and grow fast. <span id="more-419"></span></p>
<p>I mentioned the idea to a friend of mine, and he encouraged me to do it sooner than later. Within the next month, I had signed up and began <span class="organization"><a href="http://www.seaschool.com/" target="_blank">Sea School</a>.</span> <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/IYBTcoverjpeg1.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="It's Your Boat Too by Suzanne Giesemann" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/IYBTcoverjpeg_thumb1.jpg" border="0" alt="It's Your Boat Too by Suzanne Giesemann" width="97" height="144" align="right" /></a></p>
<p>I do know that a couple of years ago shortly after meeting and having an amazing connection with <a title="Suzanne Giesemann's sailing website" href="http://www.libertysails.com/" target="_blank">Suzanne Giesemann</a>, I read her book <span class="publication"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0939837692?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0939837692">It&#8217;s Your Boat Too</a></span>.  This book changed the way I saw my role on a boat. It gave me the confidence to take the test (oral and practical) to check out as a skipper at<span class="organization"> <a href="http://www.shakealegmiami.org/" target="_blank">Shake-A-Leg Miami</a></span> where I had been sailing as an AB (able body) for two years.</p>
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<td width="240" valign="top"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Shake_Pirate_girl_crew5.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Kim and the Shake-A-Leg Pirate Girl Crew" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Shake_Pirate_girl_crew_thumb4.jpg" border="0" alt="Kim and the Shake-A-Leg Pirate Girl Crew" width="260" height="224" /></a></td>
<td width="174" valign="top"><span class="caption" style="color: #ff00ff;">Kim and the Shake-a-Leg Pirate Girl Crew.</span></td>
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<td width="240" valign="top"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Pirate_GIrls_tatoos_pizza3.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 5px; border-width: 0px;" title="Shake-A-Leg's Pirate Girl crew eat pizza and show off their tatoos" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Pirate_GIrls_tatoos_pizza_thumb3.jpg" border="0" alt="Shake-A-Leg's Pirate Girl crew eat pizza and show off their tatoos" width="260" height="216" /></a></td>
<td width="174" valign="top"><span class="caption" style="color: #ff00ff;">The Pirate Girl Crew share pizza and show off their tattoos after a day on the water.</span></td>
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<p>I initially saw<span class="organization"> <a href="http://www.seaschool.com/" target="_blank">Sea School</a></span> and the ensuing test as an opportunity to once again up my confidence level. I had plans to cruise whether it be with a partner or by myself, and having very little experience as a skipper (although I am, if I may say so myself, a mighty fine crew), and only having the opportunity at the time to skipper the twenty something Freedoms at <span class="organization">Shake</span>, I felt by acquiring the intellectual knowledge, I would then be able to transfer that into practical knowledge when the time came. <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Sea_School_Class.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Kim and her Sea School class" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Sea_School_Class_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Kim and her Sea School class" width="260" height="253" align="left" /></a></p>
<p>For me, the confidence came in realizing how much I already knew, with the most challenging part about the whole process being the paperwork preparation for the Coast Guard. Trust me, if there is even the most remote possibility that you may decide to do this, start right now logging your hours on every single vessel you are on. For those of you that are now cruising or have been, this will be easy. For me, I had to document sea time over the last 20 years of sailing!</p>
<p>Getting my Captains license was definitely a good thing for me, however, unless you have a desire to use it for professional reasons, I highly recommend <span class="organization">ASA</span>’s (<a href="http://www.american-sailing.com/" target="_blank">American Sailing Association</a>) certifications. <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/ASA_Course.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="ASA Sailing course" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/ASA_Course_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="ASA Sailing course" width="260" height="200" align="left" /></a> The information is the same; with an opportunity to apply the information in a practical setting (and be tested on it) is presented. I am a true believer in experiential learning, which is something the Captains license testing doesn’t offer.</p>
<p>Today, I am actively looking for my boat, with hopes to being a live aboard before years end and with my Captains license, I am excited about starting a charter company and getting my<span class="organization"> <a class="organization" href="http://www.american-sailing.com/" target="_blank">ASA</a> </span>instructors certifications so I can share this passion with others.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/YO_front_cover.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="YO_front_cover" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/YO_front_cover_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="YO_front_cover" width="172" height="125" align="right" /></a></p>
<h6>About Kim</h6>
<p><span class="note">Kim Hess is a sailor, a captain!, a yoga instructor and the author of <a class="publication" title="Yoga Onboard: a guide for cruisers and live aboards" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0979204003?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=womeandcrui-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0979204003" target="_blank">Yoga Onboard</a>, a practical guide to adapting traditional yoga postures or asana to your vessel. It’s available as a book and DVD.</span></p>
<h6>More info</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note">Visit Kim Hess’s website, <a class="publication" href="http://www.tropicyoga.com/" target="_blank">Tropic Yoga</a> or check <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0979204003?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0979204003">Yoga Onboard: a guide for cruisers and live aboards</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wacblog1-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0979204003" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> at Amazon.com.</li>
<li class="note">Look for sailing classes and certifications at the <a class="organization" href="http://www.american-sailing.com/" target="_blank">American Sailing Association</a>.</li>
<li class="note">Volunteer with <a class="organization" href="http://www.shakealegmiami.org/" target="_blank">Shake-A-Leg Miami</a>.</li>
<li class="note">Visit Suzanne Giesemann’s website, <a class="publication" title="Suzanne Giesemann's sailing website" href="http://www.libertysails.com/" target="_blank">Liberty Sails</a> or check <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0939837692?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0939837692">It&#8217;s Your Boat Too</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wacblog1-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0939837692" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> at Amazon.com.</li>
<li class="note">Check out getting your captain’s license through <a class="organization" href="http://www.seaschool.com/" target="_blank">Sea School</a>.</li>
<li class="note">Consult the <a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/resources.htm#LearningToSail" target="_blank">Learning to Sail Resources</a> page (on this website)</li>
</ul>
<h6>Related articles (on this website)</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2010/06/kim-hess-moves-aboard-her-first-boat/" target="_blank">Kim Hess moves aboard her first boat</a></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2006/11/3-getting-started/">Getting Started</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #3)</em></li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2010/02/how-d-wogaman-became-a-skilled-cruiser/" target="_blank">How answering a personal ad led me to become a skilled cruiser </a></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2009/09/debbie-leisure-learns-to-sail-her-boat-single-handed/">Debbie Leisure learns to sail her boat single-handed.</a></em></li>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>How did you learn your sailing/cruising skills?</strong><br />
Let us know. Email <a href="mailto:kathy@forcruisers.com">kathy@forcruisers.com</a> or leave a comment below.</p>
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		<title>A medical crisis leads Marti to buy a sailboat and learn to cruise</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Aug 2009 23:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marti Brown</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/MartiBrown1.jpg"></a> In the early 1990&#8217;s, I was a single, healthy and athletic woman, making a living in the health care industry. I had planned to retire when I hit 55, buy a cruising boat and sail away to somewhere for fun during the &#8220;golden years”.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/MartiBrown1.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 0px 0px 10px; border-width: 0px;" title="Marti Brown" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/marti-brown.jpg" border="0" alt="Marti Brown" width="198" height="240" align="right" /></a> In the early 1990&#8217;s, I was a single, healthy and athletic woman, making a living in the health care industry. I had planned to retire when I hit 55, buy a cruising boat and sail away to somewhere for fun during the &#8220;golden years”.</p>
<h5><strong>My plans were changed when</strong> I got very ill with gangrene of my small intestine and almost died.</h5>
<p>While I spent 51 days in the hospital, 41 where I couldn&#8217;t eat, I decided that if I got out of this crazy health jam I was in I would sell everything and buy a bigger boat and just go sailing! Wasn&#8217;t sure if I would even live until 55 or be healthy enough to sail then.<span id="more-328"></span></p>
<h5>In 1993<strong> I sold my house, bought a bigger boat</strong> that I have now, and sold the smaller boat, a Hunter 27.</h5>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/otherwoman.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="The Other Woman, my Allmand 31" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/otherwoman_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="The Other Woman, my Allmand 31" width="260" height="186" align="left" /></a>I began saving money and preparing to get totally debt free to go sailing.</p>
<p>Part of the process was to get to know my new boat, make modifications in preparations for cruising and learn all there was to know about diesel engines as I had only had experience with outboards in my previous two boats.</p>
<p>I also wanted to see if I would enjoy living on the boat. My parents and family thought I had lost my mind. I would take the boat out for long weekends and two or three week vacations to try and get the feel of what it might be like if I went cruising.</p>
<h5>My friends at the marina where I lived, suggested that I put an <strong>SSB/HAM radio</strong> on the boat</h5>
<p>&#8230;so that I could communicate and get weather while I was cruising. I bought the books to study and passed my General class HAM exam.</p>
<p>Then I bought an SSB/HAM radio and talked to a bunch of people about how to install it and then I put it in. There weren&#8217;t any books to teach me how to install it or how to use it for that matter so I asked a lot of questions and did a tremendous amount of searching to find information.</p>
<p>In one of the sailing rags, I read about a new technology that would allow you to send and receive emails through your SSB/HAM radio so I went ahead and bought a radio modem and tried to install it and use it. That was daunting and I didn&#8217;t figure it out by the time I left.</p>
<h5><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/TheOtherWoman.jpg"><strong><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="The Other Woman at anchor" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/TheOtherWoman_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="The Other Woman at anchor" width="260" height="89" align="right" /></strong></a>In November of 1997,<strong> I slipped the dock lines for the final time</strong> and went off into the sunset, solo and alone.</h5>
<p>I was really nervous but very excited at the same time. I had anticipated all of the maintenance issues and the boat behaved very well as I day sailed down the coast of Florida.</p>
<p>I came into Boot Key Harbor the day after Thanksgiving and was so exhausted after dodging crab traps in the Florida Bay and seeing the harbor so full of boats at anchor that I wimped out and took a slip. I think I slept for about 14 hours I was so pooped. When I was scoping out the harbor I realized that I needed to set two anchors. Never in my cruising life to date did I ever have to set two anchors and I realized I needed to consult Chapman&#8217;s to read about how to do that.</p>
<p>I finally left the slip and went into the Harbor and then many things on the boat went bust. Batteries, depth sounder and so forth. I fixed all of that but the weather was pretty wicked and the windows to the Bahamas were pretty slim. I tried to leave for the Bahamas several times and just gave up as the actual sea state was too nutty and winds from the wrong direction.</p>
<h5>In 1999 I was ready and <strong>left for the Bahamas.</strong></h5>
<p>I did have a crew member who had come highly recommended as she had soloed her boat down from the Carolinas and had been to the Bahamas with her boyfriend several times. Turned out she didn&#8217;t know jack shit about navigating or sailing and she probably was the deck lizard on the trips to the Bahamas.</p>
<p>My crew member and I made it to Bimini, then to Great Stirrup where I spun an outboard prop. Then on to Spanish Wells to try and buy a new outboard for the dinghy. We also went to Royal Island and goofed around there for a while. Then left for Abaco and entered North Bar biting our nails all the while as we entered the essentially unmarked inlet surrounded by reefs and rocks.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/hurrfloyd199909141945utcg84kmir.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Hurricane Floyd 1999 09/14 at 1945utc" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/hurrfloyd199909141945utcg84kmir_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Hurricane Floyd 1999 09/14 at 1945utc" width="260" height="200" align="right" /></a> After we got to  Marsh Harbor, <em>Hurricane Dennis was bearing down on us</em> and my crew mate bailed which had been discussed prior to setting out.</p>
<h5>So, I was alone during Dennis but not really. I had found new friends on the HAM radio and in the cruising community.</h5>
<p>The boat and I weathered the storm well and then set out alone to Green Turtle Cay two weeks later.</p>
<p>The day I got to Green Turtle, I was delighted to see some friends I had met in Marathon. We got together for supper that night and I felt pretty darned good about life until I heard the weather report on the HAM radio the next morning. <strong> </strong></p>
<h5><strong>Hurricane Floyd had formed and was </strong><strong>making a bee line for my location.</strong></h5>
<p>The HAM mentors I had met on the radio warned that this one would be life threatening for anybody on land, let alone on a boat. So, I stripped the boat and prepped her hoping that she would survive and then called on the VHF to try and find somewhere on land to evacuate to.</p>
<p>I got an offer for shelter from a nice guy Jim and dragged all I could drag off the boat in the dinghy to the cottage. The hurricane was brutal with 155 mile an hour sustained winds and gusts to over 200 mph. Whew! My boat did great.</p>
<p>For the next two weeks I was on the HAM radio providing health and welfare traffic to and from the islands. I made many more friends in the Abacos from my efforts but in doing so I missed a lot of the good food that the restaurants were grilling as they had lost power! Rats!</p>
<p>Then I decided it was time to go back to the States for a while and I left with a couple of other boats I had met.<br />
We all slowly made it to Old Bahama Bay and the weather was pretty crummy for a crossing. We even tried once and it was just too rough. So, we all came back to West End and just goofed off and snorkeled and had pot luck dinners waiting on the weather.</p>
<h5>One morning the dockmaster came over and said, &#8220;<em>Get tied up quick! Another hurricane is coming!</em>&#8220;</h5>
<p>“Oh shit” was the general sigh. We all made fast to four poster slips and spidered in after we had a look at the weather channel forecast. The marina was a great hurricane hole for this hurricane, Jeanne I think was the name and we all walked around during the storm taking pictures and shaking our heads about the trifecta of hurricanes we had all suffered through.</p>
<p>I guess I really liked Boot Key Harbor so I went back there to lick my wounds and try to beef up my cruising kitty. I found work at the local hospital and began working six months in the Fall and Winter and taking off the Spring and Summer months. In my off time from the hospital, I sailed back to the Abacos. It was easy solo sailing where I could run for 12 hours, anchor and sleep and get up and do it again.</p>
<h5><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/AnnieReadingtheRadioEmailBible.jpg"><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="Annie Reading the Radio Email Bible" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/AnnieReadingtheRadioEmailBible_thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Annie Reading the Radio Email Bible" width="244" height="184" align="right" /></a> I got the idea in the Abacos that I should <strong>write a book about Marine SSB radio</strong></h5>
<p>&#8230; how to use it as there were no books about it on the market. So, I started writing the first book. Then, in 2003 I finished the &#8220;green&#8221; book about radio email. In 2005 I revised the first Marine SSB book and in 2008 I published the <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971564043?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0971564043">The ICOM M802 Radio Manual for &#8220;Idi-Yachts&#8221;</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wacblog1-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0971564043" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></em><br />
and a <em>murder mystery</em>, <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971564035?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wacblog1-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0971564035">Murder At Stacy&#8217;s Cove Marina</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wacblog1-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0971564035" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></em>.</p>
<p><img style="display: inline; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; border-width: 0px;" title="I began doing seminars at the boat shows on Marine SSB radio" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/marti-brown-2.jpg" border="0" alt="I began doing seminars at the boat shows on Marine SSB radio" width="244" height="194" align="right" />I began doing seminars at the boat shows on Marine SSB radio to demystify the device and help folks learn to use it. People began calling on me when they came to Boot Key to assess their SSB installation and teach them how to use their SSB.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been caught in a few more hurricanes in the Abacos; in 2004 Frances and Jeanne and in 2005 in the Florida Keys; Dennis, Katrina, Rita and Wilma. The boat did well once again.<strong> Luck is where preparation meets opportunity. </strong></p>
<p>Life is good!<br />
Cheers<br />
Marti B</p>
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<h6><span style="color: #0000ff;">How did you learn to sail and to handle and maintain your boat?</span></h6>
<p>I took a sailing course that I won in an auction to benefit the Arthritis Foundation in Tampa, FL</p>
<p>To maintain my boat, I met a mentor who was my neighbor at my first marina when I bought my first sailboat, a 23&#8242; Hunter. He was a retired fellow that was delighted to coach me through all of the things about sailing and boat upkeep and repair.</p>
<h6><span style="color: #0000ff;">Did you start out with sailing/boating experience early in your life? </span></h6>
<p>My father didn&#8217;t swim and was raised on a farm. He never had any interest in boating. My mother swam but also had interest in boating. My god parents liked to go out fishing in the Great Lakes in Michigan but they never took me out. Rats! I guess I got hooked on the water by watching Lloyd Bridges on TV.</p>
<h6><span style="color: #0000ff;">What were the skills that you found hardest to learn? How did you tackle them? </span></h6>
<p>Diesel repair and maintenance. It was a weird struggle to overcome some strange message in my head that told me I shouldn&#8217;t or couldn&#8217;t do this. Had to learn to take off my learned stupidity as a woman.</p>
<h6><span style="color: #0000ff;">What advice do you have for other women who may be interested in doing what you have done?</span></h6>
<p>Read, ask questions, take the risk and push the envelope. You&#8217;ll make mistakes but you&#8217;ll learn or you&#8217;ll sell the boat. It can be very empowering!</p>
<h6><span style="color: #0000ff;">What kind of boat do you have?</span></h6>
<p>I now have a 31&#8242; Allmand sailboat, full masthead sloop with a three foot draft, 16hp diesel engine.</p></blockquote>
<h6>More info</h6>
<ul>
<li> <span class="note"><a href="http://www.idiyachts.com/" target="_blank">Marti Brown’s website</a> with info on her SSB/HAM books and nautical fiction.</span></li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/resources.htm#LearningToSail" target="_blank">Learning to Sail Resources</a> (on this website)</li>
</ul>
<h6>Related articles (on this website)</h6>
<ul>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/2009/09/debbie-leisure-learns-to-sail-her-boat-single-handed/">Debbie Leisure learns to sail her boat single-handed.</a></em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2008/11/27-single-women-sailing-part-1/">Single Women Sailing – Part 1</a> and </em><em><a href="../../admirals-angle/2008/12/28-single-women-sailing-part-2/">Part 2</a></em><em> (Admiral&#8217;s Angle columns #27 and #28)</em></li>
<li class="note"><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2006/12/4-peace-of-mind-emergency-skills" target="_top">Peace of Mind—Emergency Skills</a> <em>(Admiral&#8217;s Angle column #4)</em></li>
<li class="note"><em><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/admirals-angle/2006/11/3-getting-started/">Getting Started</a> (Admiral’s Angle column #3)</em></li>
</ul>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>How did you learn your sailing/cruising skills?</strong><br />
Let us know. Email <a href="mailto:kathy@forcruisers.com">kathy@forcruisers.com</a> or leave a comment below.</p>
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		<title>Beth Schwarzman &#8211; Women’s Sailing Conference – June 6</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kathy Parsons</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/bethschwarzman.jpg"></a> Beth Schwarzman will be the keynote speaker at the <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">8th Women’s Sailing Conference</a> to be held June 6 at the Corinthian Yacht Club in Marblehead, Massachusetts.</p>
<p>Beth is a cruising sailor who has dropped anchor in harbors in the Faeroe Islands, Brazil, West Africa, Cuba, Estonia, Belize, and Newfoundland, among others. She  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/bethschwarzman.jpg"><img style="border-right: 0px; border-top: 0px; display: inline; margin: 0px 10px 0px 0px; border-left: 0px; border-bottom: 0px" title="Beth Schwarzman" src="http://www.womenandcruising.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/bethschwarzman-thumb.jpg" border="0" alt="Beth Schwarzman" width="200" height="260" align="left" /></a> <strong>Beth Schwarzman</strong> will be the keynote speaker at the <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">8th Women’s Sailing Conference</a> to be held June 6 at the Corinthian Yacht Club in Marblehead, Massachusetts.</p>
<p>Beth is a cruising sailor who has dropped anchor in harbors in the Faeroe Islands, Brazil, West Africa, Cuba, Estonia, Belize, and Newfoundland, among others. She has made four trans-Atlantic passages.  In her spare time, Beth is a geologist and naturalist, and the author of a nature guide to Cape Cod.<span id="more-145"></span></p>
<p>Check out the <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/09wscflyer.pdf" target="_blank">Conference Flyer</a>.</p>
<p>Visit the National <a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">Women’s Sailing Association</a> website.</p>
<p>Enjoy the conference! I (Kathy Parsons) had been planning to attend – in fact I was going to be the keynote speaker – but had to cancel due to illness in the family. I hope to attend next year. I was really looking forward to it. I took my first sailing class in Marblehead decades ago – thus beginning my sailing life!</p>
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		<title>See you at the Women’s Sailing Conference – June 6 – Marblehead, MA!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>What a great way to learn more about sailing: the <span style="color: #ff00ff;">8th Annual Women’s Sailing Conference</span> to be held June 6, 2009 in Marblehead, Mass.</p>
<p>Enjoy a full day of learning, sailing, sharing, networking, and good fun at the Corinthian Yacht Club on beautiful Marblehead Harbor. Participate in a variety of workshops for women of  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What a great way to learn more about sailing: the <span style="color: #ff00ff;"><strong>8th Annual Women’s Sailing Conference</strong></span> to be held June 6, 2009 in Marblehead, Mass.</p>
<p>Enjoy a full day of learning, sailing, sharing, networking, and good fun at the <strong>Corinthian Yacht Club</strong> on beautiful Marblehead Harbor. Participate in a variety of workshops for women of all sailing abilities, presented by some of the best women sailors around.<span id="more-91"></span></p>
<p>The conference is a great way to learn more about sailing, acquire new tactics and techniques, hone your nautical skills, and meet women who share your interest and enthusiasm for being on the water. You can select on-land and on-water workshops that match your interests and abilities.</p>
<h6>Workshops on Land:</h6>
<ol>
<li>Charting</li>
<li>Knots to Know</li>
<li>Electronic Navigation</li>
<li>Understanding the Wind</li>
<li>Suddenly Singlehanded</li>
<li>Diesel Engine</li>
<li>Galley Cuisine</li>
<li>Emergency Life Raft &amp; PFD</li>
</ol>
<h6>Workshops at Float or on a Boat:</h6>
<ol>
<li>Boat Systems</li>
<li>Sail Trim</li>
<li>Spinnakers</li>
<li>Reefing, Flaking/ Folding Sails</li>
</ol>
<h6>Workshops on the Water:</h6>
<ol>
<li>Crew Overboard</li>
<li>Introduction to Sailing</li>
<li>Introduction to Racing</li>
<li>Take the Wheel</li>
<li>Take the Tiller</li>
</ol>
<p>I will be the <strong>keynote speaker</strong> at the dinner and award presentation Saturday evening, as well as there throughout the day. I look forward to seeing you there!</p>
<p>For more information or to register:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.womensailing.org/RegistrationForm2009.pdf" target="_blank">Women&#8217;s Sailing Conference Registration Form</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.womensailing.org/" target="_blank">National Women&#8217;s Sailing Association</a></p>
<p>For more information e-mail Joan Thayer at joan_thayer@comcast.net or call 781-631-2084.</p>
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