Category: Relationships & Roles Aboard

Women cruisers share how their sense of self evolves through the cruising experience.

Lessons Learned, Relationships & Roles Aboard

6 Mistakes men make in sharing their sailing passion (Lessons I learned the hard way)

Nick O'Kelly

On even the most perfect weekend afternoon, we see only a handful of empty slips; most boats jostle restlessly in place like drunken tombstones.

Smart, motivated, and capable people own these craft:  doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs, craftsmen, teachers, engineers, etc.

They’ve sacrificed and saved and dedicated significant resources for years to buy, berth, and maintain their boats, yet [...]

Books, Websites & Blogs, Relationships & Roles Aboard

Get Her On Board (Secrets to Sharing the Cruising Dream)

Get Her On Board, by Nick O'Kelly

Through a sequence of connections it would take a page to recount, I’ve come back in touch with a cruiser I first met in a group of West Coast sailors getting ready to leave for the South Pacific from Puerto Vallarta back in 2003.

A series of maintenance problems cropped up and kept Nick and his [...]

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? ...Violet, Meri says

Violet jobs

In April, Betsy Morris wrote about the division of boat jobs aboard Salsa (Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Betsy Morris’ Confession). She wondered how other cruising couples divided up the jobs and whether they were happy with the result. Marcie Lynn commented here. Following is Meri Faulkner’s response.

I have [...]

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Marcie Lynn comments

Marcie & Dave

In April, Betsy Morris wrote about the division of boat jobs aboard Salsa (Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Betsy Morris’ Confession). She wondered how other cruising couples divided up the jobs and whether they were happy with the result. Following is Marcie Lynn’s response.

I enjoyed reading Betsy’s article, but I guess I [...]

Relationships & Roles Aboard

I am not an Admiral!

Livia-not-admiral

I am not an Admiral. I am a co-captain, a sailor, a cruiser, a wife, and sometimes a wench, but I am not an Admiral.

The word is a title of importance. It denotes authority, oversight and ultimate responsibility for a fleet.

The term has historical context which also imbues it with power. There are many Admirals [...]

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Boat jobs: Pink or Blue? Betsy Morris's confession

betsy-morris-pink-job

I have a new sailing friend, an exceptionally competent woman.

The first day we met, on a beach in the Bahamas, Doris said “I wish I’d understood when we moved aboard how uneven the tasks would seem. I wish I’d understood that my husband’s skills carried more weight than mine.” [...]

Relationships & Roles Aboard

Shipboard democracy and chain of command

The Momo Crew, Bernie, Michelle, Lola, Jana-2

“Are we gonna make it?” (me)
— “Yeah, we’ll make it.” (him)
— “I don’t know…” (me)
— “We’ll make it; sheet in the main!” (him)

60 SECONDS [...]